Variables of an emotional or psychological type are the most frequent cause of sexual problems. From poor sexual education to expectations that do not correspond to reality, complexes and insecurities. Here we will review the most common sexual problems and help you solve them, from the hand of experts.
Many people experience bad sex at some point in their lives that are by-products of other conditions or injuries. But problems of emotional or psychological origin are the most frequent cause of sexual problems, from…
- Poor sexual education
- Wrong beliefs about sexuality
- Expectations that do not correspond to reality
Here are 6 ways on how to fix bad sex with your partner.
Sexual desire disorder
Some biological causes can affect sexual desire, causing a decrease in libido, such as the treatment of some diseases; or a hormonal disorder may occur as a result of age.
But there can also be other non-biological causes that can alter sexual desire. Although sexuality is one of the most important dimensions of the human being, it is also one of the first areas that the body ‘forgets’ when it has other important things to take care of.
Solution: lots of communication
At a certain age, hormonal variations can be the cause of a drop in sexual desire. To do this, a specialist can help us solve the problem, and will even value the introduction of some hormone replacement therapy.
But the most common is that there are no biological causes involved, and it is merely seasonal low libido. In this case, it is recommended to identify the situation that is causing the emotional suffering (the death of a loved one, a work problem).
Communication with the couple, devote time, and not be pushed yourself (or your partner) are key to the desire to flow again.
Solution: identify what turns you on
Communication with the lover, relaxation, and self-knowledge are keys to solving this problem. Learning to identify what we like is key to communicate it later to the couple. For this, self-exploration through masturbation is more than recommended.
On the other hand, the importance that heterosexual couples usually give to intercourse often leaves women’s sexual needs and preferences in the background. Extending the time of foreplay and engaging in erotic games and variety can help improve lubrication and increase arousal.
Lack of lubrication
First, we must identify if this is really a problem. Myths and false expectations can cause a lot of confusion and suffering, or even think we have a problem when we don’t. Each person lubricates in different ways, and we should not generalize: “There are women who lubricate a lot, and others who less; We must not make self-demands.
Lubrication is related to a woman’s sexual arousal. In the case of noticing a decrease in vaginal lubrication, if there are no biological causes, the cause may be “bad sex by the partner, or even by the person himself.”
Erectile dysfunction, or difficulty in producing and maintaining an erection, can be classified into two types, according to sexologist Carlos Horrillo: primary erectile dysfunction has a genetic or biological nature. Some diseases, such as diabetes, can occasionally cause episodes of erectile dysfunction.
For its part, secondary erectile dysfunction has psychological causes: anxiety, trust problems with the partner, insecurities, fears.
Solution: remember that the clitoris is the center of pleasure
It must be remembered that the clitoris is the center of sexual pleasure, and its direct stimulation, accompanied by other sensory stimulations and erogenous zones, is usually the safest recipe for reaching orgasm.